Surviving Motherhood: Fear & Worry

Motherhood is one of the most challenging experiences of my life so far. Motherhood forces you to be vulnerable in a way you never thought was possible. If allowed, fear and worry can easily take over our thought life.

Sure the little’s run your life in many ways demanding your attention at any given moment. The chasing, the disciplining, the constant need to keep structure is incredibly hard.

But all of that is nothing compared to the fear & worry that tries to creep in everyday.

Every time I turn on media there’s some story about a child abduction, or a fire that kills a family of five, or a car accident, or North Korea has nuclear weapons with missile carrying capabilities. And just this morning more talk of countries using genetic modification to create super human soldiers.

Wow, that’s enough to get your mom radar worked up and then some.

Motherhood makes all of these fears more alive, more real, more threatening. Or at least it feels that way.

When I was single and childless I thought about some of these concerns occasionally. But as a mom, these thoughts about tragic events and possible future disasters will consume my mind if I let them.

And isn’t that just what the enemy wants for us moms, to be so consumed with fear that we become ineffective in the advancement of God’s Kingdom?

So what do we do to keep our fears in check?

The following are some tips and tricks I use to help keep my thoughts under control.

  1. Recognize that fear isn’t from God. The bible teaches over 300 times some version of “Do not fear”. Sure it’s easier said than done. But recognizing that fear and worry is not from God is the first step toward getting free from the oppression it brings.
  2. Take captive those thoughts through prayer. In 2 Corinthians 10:5 Paul talks about taking captive the thoughts of the Corinthian church members that were opposed to Christ’s teaching. But I believe this applies to ourselves as well. Any thought that goes against the teaching of Christ needs to be captured before it becomes a stronghold and overtakes our thinking.
  3. Release those thoughts to Father God. I read once about an amazing man of God who used to imagine a pink bucket coming down from heaven (why pink? I don’t know), and he would imagine himself placing his worries or concerns in the bucket, and then watch God pull the bucket up to heaven. I often do this,  and it really helps me release my concerns to the Lord.
  4. Ask God to replace those thoughts with truth. God doesn’t take something away without giving us a truth to replace it. He won’t leave us empty and devoid of tools. All we have to do is ask. Ask him what the truth is about your family, your children, your future. 1 Timothy 1:7 says, I have not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.” Galatians 5:22 says, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”

So your prayer might look something like this:

Lord, I recognize that fear and worry is not from you. I ask you to forgive me for not trusting you with my family and my family’s future. I take captive thoughts of fear, worry, doubt, uncertainty, and I release those thoughts to you (this is where the pink bucket comes in). Lord tell me what the truth is about my family and our future (Let Him show you in your mind’s eye). Holy Spirit, bring comfort to me with peace and joy. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

**How has fear and worry affected your life? How do you cope? What tools has the Lord given you in your battle? I would love to hear your thoughts, please comment, share, and subscribe to the blog. Thanks!

Nicole

 

 

 

 

19 COMMENTS

  1. Kelly | 10th Aug 17

    Thank you for tackling the hard issues of parenting with spiritual help. I love the prayer at the end too.

  2. Katie | 10th Aug 17

    Beautiful written! There is so much to fear in our world. Turning to the Lord and trusting in His plan for each of us is the only way to find peace. He will always help us find a way through our challenges!

  3. whitney | 10th Aug 17

    I consider myself completely sane…until it comes to my kids I have THE most irrational fears. My faith literally carries me through some days!!!

  4. Emily | 10th Aug 17

    Thank you for your insight. I can’t imagine parenting without God. Some days are just hard and others are the best.

  5. Kamie Berry | 10th Aug 17

    I’m with you on worrying about your kids. I never used to stay up at night worrying until I had my daughter. Now everything seems like a threat.

  6. Cerin | 10th Aug 17

    Very well written!

  7. Lisa | 10th Aug 17

    That mother fear is so real! I stress about all kinds of things. Another great quote is that worrying will not change the future.

  8. Anitra | 10th Aug 17

    I pray for guidance in teaching and parenting my girls all the time. Thank you for sharing this!

  9. Stacey Billingsley | 11th Aug 17

    It is difficult not to be consumed with fear in our lives, especially when there are so many factors out of our control. And the fear only grows as the kids do. I have one in college now, and sometimes I’m worried to death. It’s great to have a way to handle the fear. The prayer at the end is really helpful!

  10. Rachel | 11th Aug 17

    It is so difficult to gauge the fear as a mother. I try to teach my girls independence but at the same time, it is difficult letting them do it! Ah, motherhood.

  11. Shelanda | 11th Aug 17

    I couldn’t imagine parenting without God. No matter their age you have to keep them covered in prayer.

  12. Christy | 11th Aug 17

    It really does take faith to raise children. The worries and fears will never truly cease (even when they become adults, and I can’t even picture adding grandchildren to the mix!) but learning to ‘let go and let God’ will save our sanity as mothers!

  13. Christine | 11th Aug 17

    Wow this was beautiful! I’m learning to turn my fears over to god andthis was truly helpful . Thank you

  14. Courtney | 11th Aug 17

    I have had a lot of this fears myself, thanks for the great post on how to handle them!

  15. Kourtney | 12th Aug 17

    This is very good advice. Relevant not only for releasing our fears in Motherhood, but any other aspect of life!

  16. Joanne | 12th Aug 17

    I always try to turn my worries over to God, but I do struggle with it sometimes. Thanks for writing this reminder.

  17. Bola | 12th Aug 17

    Grest read. God has really helped me in this regard. I hardly worry about anything.

  18. Carmen | 12th Aug 17

    Excellent! Love this! I remember dealing with the fear in my own heart. It pinnacled when my kids were teens and going out on their own. I dealt with it very much like you describe here, and it made a world of difference to me AND to my kids!

  19. Lisa | 13th Aug 17

    Such a good reminder! I love the 1 Timothy verse. I’ve held on to that one a lot in unertain times.

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